On Twitter there is a behavior pattern where a person who has lost an argument redirects the narrative instead of owning up. Why is it so hard to admit we are wrong to a complete stranger we will never see again? Because it has nothing to do with them.

Physical pain centers light up when get the silent treatment and also when you lose an argument. These are biological clues that we are guilty of behavior that threatens our existence. In the first case, if you are rejected by your tribe, you're as good as dead. so the pain compels you to do whatever it takes to make them accept you again; anything to make the pain stop. Pain triggered by being wrong is like your dog trying to get through the electric fence. Until you move on, every time you approach that  error, you're going to feel it.

On Twitter, when someone is wrong their final remark will certainly be insulting. They probably hold a grudge for a minute or two, as if you're the reason they're wrong. Punished for being right. Sheesh.

When I was younger, the pain of being wrong would persist because I focused on the wrong element of the situation: that I was wrong, not what I was wrong about.  Once I decided to freely admit when I am wrong - own up to every argument where I am proven wrong - my levels of stress and anxiety changed forever.

Some might argue that I am not learning my lesson if the pain doesn't have a chance to ingrain the lesson. How long should you suffer because you thought the capital of Florida was Orlando?  In fact, if you focus on being wrong, then you are likely to forget the thing you were wrong about in the first place.

The pain is a note-to-self that you shouldn't be focusing on something so trivial as a corrupt cell in a spreadsheet, especially since you are probably punishing the person who was right with a dirty scowl, if not worse.  The punishment does not fit the crime of being wrong because it is punishment for not admitting you are wrong.

 Next time you are proven wrong, see what happens when you admit it.